Is it just her age (10)? or am I missing something......

Well, my blogging isn't going kind of slow...not really ever too sure what to blog about....so I guess I'll just ramble like I normally do. We had a pretty good week with the exception of Hayley's attitude towards me. Somedays she can be so sweet, but other days not so much. I really don't think her attitude has anything to do with Chloe being gone. (I do realize there are times she may be sad without Chloe, but I don't think her anger towards me is stemming from that) Honestly, I think alot of it is because she is so spoiled. Her attitude towards me is fine if she is getting what she wants. It's when I tell her no that she goes off on me. (like yelling, trying to hit or kick me, etc) Or if I'm doing something without her. For example, I went to dinner the other night with a friend...... Hayley told another one of my friends "can you believe she is going to Olive Garden without me?, she doesn't deserve to do that". Hayley really, truly believes I don't deserve to have fun without her. So, I'm wondering...is this a phase with her, or am I missing something? Because of her attitude this past week, we took her tv out of her room, took her cell phone away (like she really needs one of those at 10 yrs old) and are not letting her on the computer. Which are huge things for her, but it's hard to stick to that since Aaron and I both work. Friday my mom watched her, so I said they could watch tv for awhile and yesterday she went to Mamaw Janet's for most of the day (since I worked a double and Aaron hung out with the guys). So, while she was there she watched tv and played on the computer. Then tomorrow I'm off, it's supposed to be pretty out (and rainy the rest of the week) so we'll probably go swimming at my friends. We should probably stay at home and do nothing, but I want to enjoy some sunshine. What to do, what to do.... I just want her to respect me. Aaron says we are both just so much alike that's why we argue so much. We do have times where we get along great, we have lots of fun and I have no doubt she loves me very much. And, I hope and pray she doesn't have any doubts of my love for her. I guess what it boils down to, is Hayley needs to learn she doesn't always get what she wants and that when she doesn't get what she wants it doesn't mean it's okay for her to disrespect me. She doesn't talk to Aaron the way she does me...so, it's just a work in progress for all three of us. Our family has been through so much these past few years, and I know we will only become stronger. I just want Hayley and I to get along a little better. I want her to know I love her very much....even if I do tell her no. I want her to know that is okay to not always get what you want. I want her to realize "no" doesn't mean she isn't loved, and I want her to realize she doesn't have to get angry if things don't exactly the way she thinks they should. So........how's that post for some rambling...I really did get off on a tangent huh? If anyone has any advice it would be much appreciated!